When you are 16 and finding your identity world is definitely a scary place....
He : Give me your email id or phone number
Me : why ???
He : Because you are interesting dear...
Me : NO!
At 16 I always felt boys who use the word "DEAR" were flirting and he felt dear was used to girls who you are friends with ...
Thus began a long persuasion .. I would refuse every single time and he kept on perusing ... That was the time when facebook started he was one of the first to send me request and I wouldn't accept it.
one day he was like : I seriously think I'm a fool now , I just wanted to be your friend because you are just like me if you cant understand that I can't help you , BYE!
I donno why I felt so bad about that and I was like ok fine lets be friends ...
But what he said was right we are very similar , we have our differences but almost 80% in common .
My mom always said finding someone who understands me and my ideologies was like finding a blue diamond but he always understood me effortlessly..
Growing up like a tomboy for a brief period I had more friends who are boys than girls , I never got scared of stupids things , I never cried nor blushed , I was too sporty and competitive . I was bro to all my guy friends (still am) . I'm still pretty much like that but the strangest thing was that he never treated me like a bro. I was this girl to him with whom he could talk about inventions , travel , adventures , politics ,history etc etc .
The thing I liked most about him was that he is a feminist and alot like my dad who also a feminist . I always used to say if I ever met a guy like my dad I would marry him because I was so confident that I would never meet a guy with such forward mindset and my parents especially my dad always felt that I would die unmarried .
At some point I slowly realized its simply cant be friendship because he would wake up late nights till I reach my destination if I'm travelling alone, he would get worried if I didn't message him. So I confronted him one day when he sent some message with deep thoughts ... And after few minutes of confrontation he said " sometimes I do feel like we should be more than friends" , frankly speaking at that time I didn't think much, all my friends had boyfriends and were pretty busy in their lives and I was bored with where my life was , I desperately needed some adventure so I said yes with no intention of any future thoughts and pretty much being sure about breaking up with him one day..
After all the life I had I guess the best time started the moment I said yes because being adventurous and full of energy I never had someone who would support that I mean my parents supported it but I never had a companion and there he was with equal thoughts . Whether it was late night drives , hiking , trekking , being on biggest rollercoaster or a towerdrop we did it all..
When I told my friends that I was in a relationship everyone guessed it was with him and my best friends were like if not him then no one can control your madness and at one point my mom was like you know you should marry him because no one can understand you.
That was so true I never had any person in my life who would understand me so well like him. But it was all too unreal for me I was pretty sure we would breakup , I somehow made up my mind that it wouldn't last...
One day I lost my dog of 10years being the strong person I'm I had to comfort all my family members keep my tears inside me and I was living far as a person who is bad at expressing I didn't even tell my friends but he knew it , he traveled for like 19hrs leaving his work just to meet me so that I wont be lonely and that was the time it hit me and I was like no I cant play around thinking its gonna end one day I better be serious and work it on.
I know being in a relationship is not an easy task even stone hearted people cry and there'll be ton of mood swings , different phases but you just have to go through all of it. I always think loosing everything is very easy but keeping everything together is hard yet worth it .
People breakup for silly reasons these days.
When we decided to get married I know there is this huge opposition from my friends , his friends and common friends. I mean we live in a society where people think if you are getting married you will have kids in a year or two then become this typical middle aged couple but we absolutely have no plans of having kids even more than 10yrs and when people ask me why suddenly you people decided to get married its not sudden we know each other for so long being having discussed it many times it never felt sudden and marriage is the only thing that would allow us to enjoy more , travel more, be more adventurous and be all by ourselves.
Our relationship is I would say is bit less complicated compared to others. We are never romantic kind of people we are more like best friends and still our conversations are mostly about all those I mention above , we never lie to each other and figure out easily even if we did , we both love animals and almost 80% of our interests , thoughts and ideas match. As its the scenario we really do have less fights than other couples and more understanding..
If ever in future I have kids I would really tell them to be with someone who share same interests , I know people say opposites attract but after certain stage you would really get fed up if you want something and your partner wants something else...
For some reason marriage is not at all making me nervous, have to wait and watch how our lives will be after June....
He : Give me your email id or phone number
Me : why ???
He : Because you are interesting dear...
Me : NO!
At 16 I always felt boys who use the word "DEAR" were flirting and he felt dear was used to girls who you are friends with ...
Thus began a long persuasion .. I would refuse every single time and he kept on perusing ... That was the time when facebook started he was one of the first to send me request and I wouldn't accept it.
one day he was like : I seriously think I'm a fool now , I just wanted to be your friend because you are just like me if you cant understand that I can't help you , BYE!
I donno why I felt so bad about that and I was like ok fine lets be friends ...
But what he said was right we are very similar , we have our differences but almost 80% in common .
My mom always said finding someone who understands me and my ideologies was like finding a blue diamond but he always understood me effortlessly..
Growing up like a tomboy for a brief period I had more friends who are boys than girls , I never got scared of stupids things , I never cried nor blushed , I was too sporty and competitive . I was bro to all my guy friends (still am) . I'm still pretty much like that but the strangest thing was that he never treated me like a bro. I was this girl to him with whom he could talk about inventions , travel , adventures , politics ,history etc etc .
The thing I liked most about him was that he is a feminist and alot like my dad who also a feminist . I always used to say if I ever met a guy like my dad I would marry him because I was so confident that I would never meet a guy with such forward mindset and my parents especially my dad always felt that I would die unmarried .
At some point I slowly realized its simply cant be friendship because he would wake up late nights till I reach my destination if I'm travelling alone, he would get worried if I didn't message him. So I confronted him one day when he sent some message with deep thoughts ... And after few minutes of confrontation he said " sometimes I do feel like we should be more than friends" , frankly speaking at that time I didn't think much, all my friends had boyfriends and were pretty busy in their lives and I was bored with where my life was , I desperately needed some adventure so I said yes with no intention of any future thoughts and pretty much being sure about breaking up with him one day..
After all the life I had I guess the best time started the moment I said yes because being adventurous and full of energy I never had someone who would support that I mean my parents supported it but I never had a companion and there he was with equal thoughts . Whether it was late night drives , hiking , trekking , being on biggest rollercoaster or a towerdrop we did it all..
When I told my friends that I was in a relationship everyone guessed it was with him and my best friends were like if not him then no one can control your madness and at one point my mom was like you know you should marry him because no one can understand you.
That was so true I never had any person in my life who would understand me so well like him. But it was all too unreal for me I was pretty sure we would breakup , I somehow made up my mind that it wouldn't last...
One day I lost my dog of 10years being the strong person I'm I had to comfort all my family members keep my tears inside me and I was living far as a person who is bad at expressing I didn't even tell my friends but he knew it , he traveled for like 19hrs leaving his work just to meet me so that I wont be lonely and that was the time it hit me and I was like no I cant play around thinking its gonna end one day I better be serious and work it on.
I know being in a relationship is not an easy task even stone hearted people cry and there'll be ton of mood swings , different phases but you just have to go through all of it. I always think loosing everything is very easy but keeping everything together is hard yet worth it .
People breakup for silly reasons these days.
When we decided to get married I know there is this huge opposition from my friends , his friends and common friends. I mean we live in a society where people think if you are getting married you will have kids in a year or two then become this typical middle aged couple but we absolutely have no plans of having kids even more than 10yrs and when people ask me why suddenly you people decided to get married its not sudden we know each other for so long being having discussed it many times it never felt sudden and marriage is the only thing that would allow us to enjoy more , travel more, be more adventurous and be all by ourselves.
Our relationship is I would say is bit less complicated compared to others. We are never romantic kind of people we are more like best friends and still our conversations are mostly about all those I mention above , we never lie to each other and figure out easily even if we did , we both love animals and almost 80% of our interests , thoughts and ideas match. As its the scenario we really do have less fights than other couples and more understanding..
If ever in future I have kids I would really tell them to be with someone who share same interests , I know people say opposites attract but after certain stage you would really get fed up if you want something and your partner wants something else...
For some reason marriage is not at all making me nervous, have to wait and watch how our lives will be after June....
